to deal with the fact that the public headers may be used with pre-c99
compilers, __restrict is used in place of restrict, and defined
appropriately for any supported compiler. we also avoid the form
[restrict] since older versions of gcc rejected it due to a bug in the
original c99 standard, and instead use the form *restrict.
the kernel wrongly expects the cmsg length field to be size_t instead
of socklen_t. in order to work around the issue, we have to impose a
length limit and copy to a local buffer. the length limit should be
more than sufficient for any real-world use; these headers are only
used for passing file descriptors and permissions between processes
over unix sockets.
